11.01.2011

The True Story






First, let me start by apologizing for being so disconnected with the blog lately. I'm thinking you might possibly be getting tired of guest posts & are starting to wonder why the heck you are sticking around. Well, I promise I'm coming back. Life has just been incredibly stressful lately. I'm talking so stressful, that I have a lovely mark on my lip to prove just how stressed I am. 

My hubby & I are going through a "transition" right now. Today marked the day that we are officially done being renters to a fabulous landlord. Regardless of the fact that we haven't been living in the rented house for 2 weeks now. We went and got ourselves some new "landlords". Also known as, my in-laws. 

Yes, you read that correct. I now live with my in-laws. 
Never in a million years did I think I'd ever write that sentence. But, alas, I did. And ya know what, it's sinking in. I'm beginning to grasp the severity of the situation we were in financially. The only way out was to literally move out. I lost my teaching job last April. My husband hasn't worked since March. My Thirty-One business that I started in June isn't exactly offering up a full time income right now. We couldn't afford our rent anymore. Which doesn't surprise me, since it was incredibly high to begin with. Our bills were piling up. We had two cars, but only one that actually worked. Student loans are still expected to be paid. The bill for my knee surgery finally came in. 

It was just overwhelming. And frustrating. And hard.
So hard.

I'd love to tell you that I don't put some blame on my husband. That I am such an amazing wife who knows her husband did everything he could to avoid this situation.
But I can't do that.
My husband did let me down. And he knows that so there's no need to go into details. 
But for the sake of being honest with you all, I need to tell ya that I wasn't clinging to my faith much when I would think about what more the Mr. could have been doing to keep us from having to live with his parents.

I don't think people realize how embarrassing it is to have to do something like this. 
It's a shot to your pride, for sure.
I feel like sometimes I need to tell fibs about my life when people ask me things.
When they say "Where are you living?" I just answer "In _____." I leave out the fact that it's actually my in-laws house.

WE have both been irresponsible with our money. I mean, come on, we have been married for 2 years. Don't have kids. Don't have a mortgage. Yet we don't have any money.
Yes, over the past 6 months there has been little income. But why the heck didn't we have a savings built up to protect us when something like this happened?
Oh that's right. 
We were foolish. We didn't use God's money wisely.

And now we get to humble ourselves and basically start over.

15 comments:

Erin said...

praying for you guys in this time! Keep your chin up and don't worry love....God will always provide :)

Angel said...

Praying relief comes for both of you soon! Thank you so much for your authenticity today!

Ruthie Hart said...

girl I had no idea. I will keep you and your hubby in my prayers...I applaud you for being so honest and real. Hang in there! God works in wondrous ways and I love your faith

Kelli@MoreBangforYourBucks said...

Liz, I love how honest you are, even about a bad situation. You and your hubby are in our prayers. God can redeem your situation- and will use it for his glory! xoxoxo

hannah singer said...

yes, praying for relief! and strength in these burdensome times. press into jesus, starting over can be a beautiful thing!
praying and praying. love you, sweet liz.

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Heather said...

girl, i'm here for you.
you know i've gone through this EXACT same thing.
vent to me anytime. i did it for a year. i know how hard it is, truly. xo

Faith said...

Been there, done that. I think a lot of us have at some point or another. I've lived with my in-laws and my parents for a period of time. My prayer during that time was "thank you God for the home you are preparing for us" and now I look around me at how far God has brought me (and my hard working husband) and I am AMAZED. I hope that your experience is positive and that God will give you the grace and faith you need during this time.

Melissa said...

Girl!! Do NOT be ashamed of living with the in laws. We have been married for almost 7 years and we have lived with both my parents and his. Call yourself blessed for having in laws that are willing to take you in. A lot of people don't even have that. You two will figure things out. Finances are the hardest part of marriage in my opinion and you just have to find the right groove. Pray about it and don't hesitate to ask for advice from people who are older than you. IE, pastor or parents. Don't however go blabbing your business to anyone who will listen, it's a sure recipe for marital disaster. Love you girl!!!

Bethany G said...

Girl, I just love you! I know this is hard for you... praying that the Lord will bring peace to you about the whole situation!

Erin Elizabeth said...

honestly, this was great for me to read. i am not married, and i work a salaried position. i have been awful with working on saving money-thanks for sharing what you were going through because it encouraged me to put my head back on my shoulders! there is no reason why i should not be budgeting the money that God provided for me, in a MUCH better way. thanks again :)
-erin

B. said...

We are in a financial bind too. It happens, you learn from it and you grow.

Don't be embarrassed that you are living with your in-laws we did too for awhile. We just told people we were saving up money. Which is completely true.

It's a hard time right now and there's nothing to be ashamed of! You guys will make it through this.

Francesca-Restyle Restore Rejoice said...

Don't feel embarrassed! You were both wise to realize what you needed to do and you did it. Praying for you!

Francesca

Ashley Hermsmeier said...

Thank you so much for sharing that! I will be praying for you and your hubby. You were so real and honest with your life and that is something we can all thank our Lord God for! May His hands lift you both up during this time and draw you closer!

hollie said...

i wish i had the courage to write something like this on my blog. you're not alone. be thankful you're married and have someone who is going to go through this with you! i can only imagine doing this...and being single.

God bless!