Role Models

Did you have one of those when you were little?
I like to think I did. 
But really I think I put my focus on too many people who had no right being role models.
Don't get me wrong. 
I love my mom.
My older sister.
My grandma.
But I didn't learn from their mistakes. I didn't seek to do what's right according to their advice.

This beautiful little lady experienced a broken heart this past weekend.
There's a problem with that. Because she is 11 & in 6th grade. She is still a little girl. A baby in my eyes. I can't wrap my head around the fact that she is old enough to have a "boyfriend" let alone cry precious tears when he says those horrible words-"Let's break up."
I've been trying to lead by example with her. I've been trying to encourage her to do daily devotions. To be someone everyone likes. Not to be a gossip. Or a mean girl. I want her to have a heart on fire for Jesus. 
Not boys.

Of course when I talked to her about what happened, she wanted to know when I had my first boyfriend. Sadly I had to tell her I was boy crazy from the first day of kindergarten. And when I was in 6th grade, I made all of the wrong decisions. I wasn't a Christian then. Yea, I grew up in church. But I didn't know the Lord as my savior yet. Little lady immediately told me "You have no place to talk. You did the same stuff."

Ughhh. That killed me. It hurt so bad.
I want her to learn from my example, not do as I did. When I tried explaining that she is a Christian & has accepted the Lord in her heart so she should be doing things differently, she got mad at me. 
I get it. I do. When I was 11 I wanted nothing more than for adults to shut up about all of their advice. And now here I am trying to offer it up to my little sister. 

I want her to be blessed. I want her to have better than I did. I want her to choose differently. To not have the heartache that I experienced.
I want her so badly to love the Lord in a way that makes her stand apart.

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This needs to fill her spirit.
Being a girl is so difficult in this generation. I want to be an influence to them. 
I'm trying to get a girls night started up at church. 
You know...movies, popcorn, nails, girl talk, & devotions. 
On modesty, bullying, boys, love, friends, gossip.
Just something to encourage them. 
To help them navigate life.

Then when I'm done being the annoying big sis to Lexi, I get to start it with this teeny one. 
{I can't imagine how it will be with my own daughters some day}

|She is clothed with strength & dignity, & she laughs without fear of the future.| Proverbs 31:25

Let's encourage our little sisters, daughters, nieces, cousins, friends to laugh instead of cry; to have dignity instead of regret; & to be bold instead of weak.


Erin said...

Thanks for this great post! I could have used someone like you in my life in sixth grade! :) Way to be on fire for God my dear!

Anonymous said...

Great post. She will get through it- she just doesnt know it yet!

Heather @ we.are.the.holdens said...

Love all of your Godly wisdom you gave your sister. I have a 12yr old boy and it is hard to navigate through all of the things that come up. If not for leaning & trusting the Lord I would be in trouble. :)

Elizabeth said...

The book of Ruth has a had a huge impact on me and how I think about what kind of man I want. You should read that with her & you guys can talk about what are qualities to look for in a man of God :)


alexis said...

Wait that's your sister right? Wow. You talk about her with so much motherly love! Poor girl. That age is so tough. years 10-20 something are! I bet when she comes down fro being so upset she'll be able to look at your advice. best of luck friend :)

Angel Haynes said...

I hear ya! I have three daughters that I so long to grow up as secure women of God. I wrote a post about it on my blog called Fabulous Femininity if you are interested. Thank you for sharing your heart with us!

hannah singer said...

so thankful god put these girls in your path. praying for you as you minister to them!

Jami said...

Liz, you are a gift! I love your heart for these girls. Sound like we have very similar pasts and I think a lot about how I will handle this with my girls. I don't want them to make the same mistakes I did. I know I can't shield them from pain so I'll leave it God's hands and let Him lead me when the time comes.